Be charismatic in four steps

“Success at anything will always come down to this: FOCUS and EFFORT; and we control both.”

— Dwayne "The Rock"Johnson

It's 2018 and if you don't know who Dwayne "The Rock"Johnson is, then you must be living under a rock. Regardless of what you think of his acting or his performance as a wrestler, one thing we can all agree on is that he is just about everywhere on our TV screens. From Hollywood blockbusters playing action heroes (e.g. Fast & Furious) to playing a soft father figure (e.g. The Tooth Fairy), he has been in over 40 movies.

But what you didn't know (unless you've been following his career since he was a wrestler) was the massive transformation he underwent right in front of our eyes. Today, he is one of the most charismatic and most liked stars. But it wasn't always like this. He used to be..... like us!

So here is another tactical video to help you speak and position yourself so that you are seen to be more charismatic, and people want to hear from you. The boys from Charisma on Command have broken down the four ingredients in The Rock's secret sauce to be more charismatic and charming. You can do this today!! Don't wait.

If you don't have time to watch the whole video, below is a shortcut summary of the four key steps in The Rock's secret sauce to becoming more charismatic and charming:

• Build anticipation: When people ask you a question, don't just answer straight away with facts. Build anticipation first. You can do this by dragging out the precursor playfully or being coy before answering. Don't do it for too long though, otherwise people will lose attention. But you can say things like "Here's something that I'm going to share with you that I've never shared with anyone..." Can you see how much more exciting this would make any sentence.
• Don't just answer the questions as face value: People often ask you precursor questions or hide what they really want to know in the question that they've asked. If people ask you where you're from at a party, yes they want to know where you come from. BUT, what they actually want to know is your story and how you got to where you are today. So don't just answer with facts, but answer with a story. Paint the picture for the listener. Can you just imagine how much more interesting you'd be.
• Tell a story: People don't care about what you say, people care about how you make them feel. The 3 things to make a story exciting are:
  • Your speaking volume. Fluctuate your voice and emphasis on the key points.
  • Facial expression. If you're telling an exciting story, let you voice show excitement. Big smiles, eyes wide open, and laugh out loud. Stop being conservative.
  • Arm movement. You've seen this from other videos but expand your space. Don't have T-Rex arms. Expand and move those arms.
• Show the other person you've heard them: How many times have people been telling you how they feel, sharing the emotions and all you do is nod. Yes, you care, but you're not showing it. You're too busy preparing a response to what they're saying. So pause and be free to respond to what the other person is saying. Tell them "it's a great question"or summarise what they've said in your own words. Active listening can make massive differences to how other people perceive you.

So here it is. Again, if you're short on time and you want to go straight to the 4 ingredients of the secret sauce, see the video time cut-downs so you can go directly to them:

• 1:55 3 ways to build anticipation to captivate listeners.
• 4:43 How to make a good first impression by answering basic questions in an interesting way (most people don't do this).
• 8:15 How to tell stories that impact people and have them hanging on your words.
• 13:36 How to be a loveable listener.