“Don’t underestimate me because I’m quiet. I know more than I say, I think more than I do, and I observe more than you know.”

— Michaela Chung

WE HAVE DONE IT!!!!!

24 months of countless trial and error experiments, numerous embarrassing moments, surprising successes, and lots of new friends later, we have established the formula that can successfully help introverts to break out of their limitations and achieve their full potential.

We are creating a program of actions based on experiments we conducted ourselves in the real world that will help introverts to establish the courage, mindset, and journey to break down their introvert bonds and achieve success. We call this program:

THE UNINHIBITED INTROVERT

Head on over to The Uninhibited Introvert page to see the details. But here is a high level summary of the formula to help you get started on your journey.

1. Change your focus

You need to realise that your thoughts are just as important. Shift your focus from being a people pleaser to focusing on what you want. Adopt the important life realisation that you need to value what you have to say, your ideas, and your opinions first. If you don't value your own thoughts, why should anyone else value them.

2. Forget the outcome

Successful self improvement is a journey. It is a series of steps and new actions that you adopt, which accumulate over time, and when you look back, you are a completely renovated person. There is no such thing as taking "massive action"or "crushing it". Trust in the process, adopt one small action at a time, and over time, become the successful person you want to be.

Think about it. If you improve by 1% every week, after a whole year, you would've improved by 52%. After 2 years, you will be a completely new person.

3. Embrace the suck

Doing anything new is going to suck. Remember the first time you learnt to drive? I do. Within the first 5 minutes, I had driven up a roundabout. I sucked big time. But countless hours of practice later, I sucked less and eventually, I was deemed good enough to drive on my own.

You will suck at everything when you push out of your comfort zone. You will fail many times. But that's perfectly fine. When you suck, when you feel nervous, when you feel uncomfortable, that's when you know you are pushing out of your comfort zone.

4. Accept yourself

Last but not least, it's important you learn to accept who you are. Every journey has a starting point. But importantly, you need to accept the good things in your life as readily as you accept the bad things. You need to accept your strengths as readily as your accept your weaknesses.

In your journey of self improvement, you are not starting from scratch. There are foundations that you already have and you need to realise that all you have to do is build upon them. If you try something new and you fail, that's success, because you tried. Now try again and notch up another success.

Stop limiting yourself. You are much more capable than you realise.

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Further Reading

How to easily command respect in a group

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How to be Value-Adding

Being seen as value-adding is one of the biggest planks in the foundation of your career success. Here are four simple steps you can take, which if you do consistently, will guarantee that you seen to be contributing meaningfully at work and maximise your chances of promotion and success.

Looking confident while working remotely

It’s hard to project confidence while on video calls. It acts like a barrier that stops us from achieving the best version of ourselves. Be it the sound quality or just trying to get your message across amongst the traffic of voices all trying to chime in at the same time. Here are six simple things to do that will give you the best chance at projecting the best version of yourself on a video call.

How to overcome Social Anxiety

Social anxiety is the single biggest blocker to introverts recognising the best version of themselves. The rapid heart beat, sweat, and mind blanks cause us to lose our perfectly thought through logic. Instead, a jumbled mass of words and ideas come out. The solution isn’t to stop feeling anxious. It is to recognise it and then start focus on the people you are speaking to.

Confrontations - Doing it the right way

Confrontations need not be daunting and one sided. The traditional leadership theories that focus on feelings and behaviours aren’t wrong. But they are missing a core component that make a massive difference. There is a simple framework from Simon Sinek that ties it all together.

STOP your nice guy / girl behaviours

Stop saying yes when you want to say no, and learn to prioritise your needs first. Nobody else is going to make your career goals come true except you. There are simple steps you can take now to stop sabotaging yourself through your nice guy / girl behaviours.

Being the best version of yourself while Working From Home

Don’t let the pandemic cause you to regress on your self improvement journey and fall into the comfort trap while working from home. Take charge of your new routine and refocus on these six foundation steps to get back on your self-improvement journey and use this opportunity to become the best version of yourself.

The key to demonstrating confidence

Your ability to demonstrate confidence is key to your career success, progression, and getting what you want. If you understand frame and can hold it in any interaction, then you will come across as confident. Here are some simple but highly impactful techniques you can use to project confidence.

The key to promotion for introverts

The key to promotion for introverts is to unleash our deep thinking and put them into practice. The mindset shift is to realise, you have to demonstrate you are operating at the next level before you actually get promoted. There is a simple way to demonstrate this by changing what you say and do when you encounter an issue. Use this principle to change your mindset and you will find success.

How to be charming as an introvert

There are a few simple actions you can take, to be as charming as Keanu Reeves, who is a stand-out as an introvert in a very extrovert dominated industry. It doesn’t require you to pretend to be someone you are not, but these five simple actions, give you the tools to embrace your introversion and use them to genuinely connect and interact in the most value-adding way. You will be both charming and unforgettable.